Monday 9th April 2012 - Langkawi

Today my plan was to try and do my own thing. Jay had said we should do something together but I woke up kind of late in the morning and was happy to do not very much today. But then Jay sent me texts and tried calling me a couple of times saying to meet him at his restaurant and then we can drive around the island. I texted him back that I was going to have a chilled one and go to the beach so maybe I would maybe catch him later. He then replied that we should go together. I walked to the restaurant where he was waiting - I was ready to walk because the beach was only over the road but he said he had a spot that we should go to and we would need to drive. To be honest I was a bit pissed because I just wanted to chill on cenang beach - although it is not the nicest beach it is lively which is what I was feeling for. I was really disappointed in the beach he took me to - instead of fine white sand it was more coarse and the beach was just quiet. I think I made it pretty obvious that I wasn't happy but soon got over it. It was actually quite nice spending time with him talking about random things. He told me that the restaurant was his and his uncle's and that he was originally from kuala lumpur. He had lived in Langkawi for 10years and had 3 brothers and 1 sister - one of his brothers was a engineer and had won a scholarship to study engineering at one of the car manufacturers in Germany. He said he wasn't married and had no children but that he had been hurt. It was a nice afternoon. After the beach we got back in the car and headed back to the restaurant. Jay didn't have a Facebook account and wanted me to help him set one up. We sat at a table in the restaurant - which was closed, smoked shisha and I set up his account.  After I had set up his account he felt the need to show me photos of all the hot asian women on google and a video on youtube entitled "Malaysia's most beautiful women". He then logged into a photo bucket account and showed me a photo of him in traditional wedding attire with a lady - the photo looked like it had been photoshopped. It didn't look real so I thought he just liked one of the hot asian women so much that he created a photo of them together. He then logged into another account and said let me show you my son and started showing me photos of a baby and then lots more photos of him and the lady from the last photo - these ones looked more real. I was really confused and then the penny dropped that he was married and had a child. He had previously told me he was going to Japan in two weeks time because he loved to travel and also to buy a boat, however today he told me differently -  he also has a wife in Japan that his first wife didnt know about and was going to see her. It was all too much for me to comprehend and I felt a bit stupid, not because I liked him (because I didnt) but because of the lying. I dont understand why he felt the need to lie in the first place. He had wanted to take me to the cinema in the evening but these new revelations bothered me - not just because he lied to me but because he was being dishonest to his wife. It is probably none of my business especially because he and i were just friends, but I wasn't trying to be pulled into a web of deceit and wouldn't want to cause any uncomfortability to his wife/wives so I got up and said I was leaving. I wasn't angry I just seem to have little patience on this trip for games - I am not looking for a relationship, I am not looking for a fling, I am just looking to just meet nice people and experience new things and this new friendship just got a bit too complicated for my liking. I went back to my accommodation to get ready and go and get some food - I had showered and was just in my room listening to music and getting ready when there was a knock at my door?! I wasn't expecting anyone and no one knows which room I am in. It was Jay. He had tried calling and texting me a number of times but I couldn't be bothered to answer so he turned up at my room. He knew I was staying in gecko guesthouse but not which room - my scooter was parked directly outside my room so I assume that he had seen it and guessed that it must be my room. He apologised and asked if he could explain himself so I agreed to meet him later in the evening. I made a skype call to my mummy munchkin to see if she was ok and was mortified when a cockroach climbed under my door and started flying around my room. I made a decision there and then that it would be my last night at this place. I had cockroaches before in other places but in this place I had woken up near enough everyday with 5new bites- I don't know whether they were mosquito bites or bed bugs but the cockroach landing on the blanket I had brought with me was the last straw! I spent the whole of the call with my mum eyeing the cockroach and then there was another knock at my door - Jay was back. I asked him to get rid of the cockroach - he stamped on it and pushed it outside.  We got in the car and he immediately started apologising. I told him "look I have no issues with you being married or having a kid, we are friends, the issue is the lying." He tried to defend his omissions by saying that it was because he didn't know me. It was true that we had only known eachother a short time but he agreed that rather than outrightly saying no to having a wife and children he could have said it was a long story that he didn't feel like sharing. I would have accepted that. As it turns out, he married this lady two years ago but she wasnt very loyal - she was getting missed calls from private numbers,  being secretive and put a lock on her phone. He then gave her an ultimatum - me or your phone and she chose the phone. He then started divorce proceedings and left to come to Langkawi to start again. I did not need to know all this. But anyway, we went for dinner in a small quiet restaurant in Kuah Town (a chicken dish, mixed vegetables, plain rice and squid salad - very nice!) and then he tried to show me the eagle in the jetty point as it was a significant statue in Langkawi. As it turns out it was too dark to see anything so we headed back towards Cenang. In the journey back I was really disappointed when he tried to hold my hand and told me he liked me - I told him that we are friends and that it was not what friends do. He tried to tell me that friends in Malaysia hold hand but I wasn't having any of it. He then crossed the line. He had previously told me he watched a lot of porn which shocked me but did not bother me as it was really none of my business but then he started asking me about my sexual preferences and saying things that I did not need or want to hear. We were in the car and I had nowhere to run and was mortified that he was asking me such inappropriate questions. I told him that i was very private about those things and wouldnt share anything so he should shut up. He wouldnt stop. He was laughing and thinking it was hilarious but for me it was not cool. Eventually he shut up and asked me where we were going next - I told him I was going home! As i was getting out of the car he said we will do something tomorrow and that I should meet him at the restaurant - I said nothing and shut the door.  I got into my room feeling really annoyed that my  nights always seem to be ending early because of these idiot guys so I walked into the guesthouse bar and sat right at the back of the bar trying not to be noticed chatting to my beautiful Lahari on wats app and we arranged to Skype in 10minutes. But then the bar man who had spoke to me a couple of nights before spotted me and pulled me loudly into the main bar. He was talking to me and asked me if he could take me out after he finished work - he was a funny guy so I started laughing saying very funny. But damn it, he was being serious!!! I avoided the question and then went back to sitting at the back of the bar to have my Skype call with Lahari. He kept coming over and being annoying - I hadn't seen lahari's face in almost a month so didn't appreciate it. I got off the call and avoided the guy like the plague and went to my room. Once in my room I packed up all my things ready to leave gecko guesthouse in the morning.